Guys. This weekend was awesome. It was gorgeous out and I watched a lot of baseball. Gooo Tribe! And Happy Halloween to those who like you dress up and celebrate. I’m not one of those people.
These photos are from a photo shoot with the talented Emma Weiss. I had such a hard time deciding which ones to share!
OUTFIT DETAILS:
KIMONO c/o (also comes in black) | DENIM (runs large, I’m wearing a 2) | SIMILAR CROP TEE, UNCROPPED | BOOTIES, SIMILAR closed toe | BAG | KANTHA NECKLACE (fair trade from Trade Roots in Arlington!)
OUTFIT DETAILS:
KIMONO c/o (also comes in black) | DENIM (runs large, I’m wearing a 2) | SIMILAR CROP TEE, UNCROPPED | BOOTIES, SIMILAR closed toe | BAG | KANTHA NECKLACE (fair trade from Trade Roots in Arlington!)
photography by Emma Weiss
Let’s talk about this outfit and get into some real talk. I’m so self conscious about my mid section its ridiculous. I really went out of my comfort zone in picking this outfit in an effort to embrace my body and be okay showing some skin. I keep trying to remind myself that our bodies are amazing and capable and miraculous. Importantly and obviously, it is the only one we’ve got. Instead of always putting myself down for this and that, I need to see the good in my body and stop caring so much what other people might think.
I think the default thought process for women is the usual reel of personal insults. Ways we can improve. The constant inner voice telling us “I’ll be happy when…I lose weight, when these jeans fit, when I can wear that bikini, when I have a steady relationship” That’s so crappy and unfortunate.
Well babes – this is what you’ve got. Start saying to yourself “I am happy NOW” and “I am going to do this NOW” instead of placing your happiness and self-worth somewhere in your future. I’m 100% guilty, but I sincerely try to be better. As I am closer to 30 now than 20 I’m realizing how stupid it was to waste so many years of my youth being self conscious about…nothing.
So for today’s outfit I got out of my own way and wore that I wanted to wear. Which was, in this instance, a crop top. Okay, and a FAB kimono. I turned off the noise on my head (which, in case you were wondering, was giving me hell about being too old to wear a crop top) and instead thought dayum you look great today.
That might sounds brackish or arrogant, but sometimes self love is what it takes. I can have 100 comments on instagram telling me I look great, but until I ACTUALLY believe it in my own brain, then it won’t click.
This pep talk was as much for me as it was for you. Tell me, what do you tell yourself when the negative thoughts start creeping in? What is your secret to confidence?
–Roxanne
Currently Sipping: spiked apple cider
p.s. – I HAVE worn a cropped (ish) top on the blog before. It was nearly impossible to get myself out of the house in it. See the look right here. And if you’re feeling the bloat and need some tips before you take the plunge, check out my BEST de-bloating tips.
Wow, this is so encouraging! I agree, the self-love is so important, and there is so much more beautiful about our bodies than not…
Thanks for speaking what’s on your heart! (visiting from Garay Treasures:)
Love how you’re playing with layers in this look <3
XO Amanda | http://www.glitterandspice.com
Your photos are gorgeous! You are rocking the crop top and look amazing!
Jill
Doused In Pink
So beautiful and you take amazing pictures too! You rock this crop top but I hear you on the self-esteem issue. it’s totally normal to be self conscious but you are fabulous!
Edwige | http://www.hypnozglam.com
Oh man this is gorgeous. From the outfit to the scenery.
Life is just Rosie
Instagram
Love this look! You rocked it – I also had the same reservations about wearing crop tops but have learned to just wear what I want without bothering if I looked perfect or not. Ha. Seriously though, you looked fab. love that kimono print too!
Abby of Life in the Fash Lane
Thank you, Abby! You always rock your outfits with confidence!
Such a stunning shoot, love the architecture of that location – so cool! You look great in these photos and the feeling of being self conscious is totally normal. One of the great things about the blogging community is the support – hope that inspires you to continue to go out of your comfort zone! I host a weekly blogger link-up and would love to have you join!
xo,
Kelly
Thank you, Kelly. You’re right, the blogger community is SO supportive! I’ll definitely check out your link up!
Girl this post is amazing. Those photos — I’m dying, you look GORGEOUS! And you are beautiful the way you are! No matter what “flaws” you may think you have (which I don’t see, duh). I will say I was the least confident person but once I started working out I became SO confident in myself because I was (and am) crushing my own goals. It was a game changer for me! We all definitely need to work on loving ourselves more! xoxo
Alissa
http://www.naturallymeblog.com/
Thanks, Alissa. Working out regularly helps me feel confident, too! I love your motivational instagrams 🙂
Aw thank you girl! I hope I can reach someone by my motivation! lol
Roxanne, I am absolutely LOVING this look on you! Love this post. I think as women we all struggle feeling beautiful and comfortable in our own skin, and sometimes it is really hard. You look gorgeous! I love, love, love everything about this!
xx, Elise
http://www.sparkleandslippers.blogspot.com
THANK YOU Elise! That means so much coming from you!
Cute outfit, and great photos! Yes, it was perfect weather in DC over the weekend!
Kasi | http://thestyleperk.com/?p=2133
Thanks, Kasi.
Beautiful pictures!! Keep up the self love girl! 😉
Erica
http://www.pumpsandpushups.com
Thanks, Erica! You guys are always a great source of inspiration!
THE OUTFIT IS BEAUTIFUL AND YOU LOOK GREAT IN IT!!
Thanks, momma! Love you!
You are beautiful inside and out. I know how it feels to have low self esteem and confidence. It’s so true to say I’ll be happy when I lose weight, etc. I think it’s OK to have a healthy approach to your struggles. For example, if you think you’ll be happy when you lose weight make it a goal and empower yourself to do better and be better. Just remember not to be so hard on yourself and be kind to yourself. Give yourself a cheat meal every now and then: don’t deprive completely and don’t indulge completely.
Your comment touches my soul. Thank you for the encouragement!
You actually look amazing, you go for the crop tops, they look ace on you. Jacqui
http://www.mummabstylish.com
Thanks, Jacqui. Maybe I will dabble in them, now that I’ve had such an enthusiastic response!
I have no idea what you’re talking about, Roxanne, that midriff of yours looks flat and svelte and rock solid 🙂 and I love it when a kimono strays away from the usual girly pink palette 🙂
Aw thanks Sheela. I felt squishy, but then when I got these photos back I realized how unfounded my thoughts were.
Aw you look amazing and confident Roxanne! I love your message too about embracing the only body we have. Thanks for the encouragement.
Rachel xo
http://garaytreasures.com
Thanks, Rachel! Just trying to keep it real!
Very wise. I fully thumbs-up this kind of post!
Also, Emma Weiss captured a peeeeerfect picture 4rth from the top: such a natural smile!
Also, that venue is beautiful
Teehee I’m glad you like that one!
Love your words and your pictures are stunning! She’s very talented but she had a pretty great model to work with
x0x0 Caroline http://thecarolove.com/
Thanks, Caro! Dawww you’re making me blush.