VALENTINE OUTFIT DETAILS:
HEART TOP | MOTT & BOW DENIM | HEART SOCKS | VELVET HEELS | BAG
VALENTINE OUTFIT DETAILS:
HEART TOP | MOTT & BOW DENIM | HEART SOCKS | VELVET HEELS | BAG
Happy Valentine’s Day! Our Love Story.
It’s a holiday filled with flowers, chocolates, pizza, and kitschy greeting cards. It is also Jake and Elwood’s birthday today! The little kittens Dan gifted me for my law school graduation are now 6 years old. I love them so much!
Dan and I have celebrated 14 Valentine’s days together, nuts right? We were together briefly in high school. I had just gotten to high school, and this Sophomore on the drum line asked all my friends if I’d be willing to date him. So we did, for 8 fun months! We broke up because I think we freaked out that it could be forever. And who meets their forever when they are 15? Apparently this girl did.
So we took a break, then got back together right before I was headed to Miami University in 2006. We made it through four years of college, and survived 3 years of law school. Dan and I got married in August of 2015 in Cleveland, spent 2 years together in Washington, DC, and we’re on our second year in Chicago. Growing up together has been so much fun, and he’s always been one of my biggest fans and supporters.
Dealing With Yucky Comments & Spreading Valentine LOVE
I received a criticism on a photograph lately that really put me down in the dumps. The commenter said that the photograph was unflattering, and that I was much prettier than that in person. I thought the photo was actual fire, capturing an edgy angle and an even edgier outfit. My friends jumped in and defended me in the comments, which made me feel better. But I still cried my whole way home from work, and cried some more at home. I know it was one negative comment in a sea of likes and supporters, but sometimes it is too easy to focus on the negative.
I’ve been feeling self conscious about my weight lately and the comment, while meant to be constructive, was the cherry on top. My clothing is snug, and I don’t feel great about it. So to make the best of my curves, I’m strategically choosing outfits and poses that work for me right now. Michelle and I comb through hundreds of photos to choose the most flattering perfect mood-setting snap. After all that work and effort, it just feels bad to be put down for a reason that I’m trying to overcome. I know I don’t look like myself, and I don’t quite feel like myself either!
So this Valentine’s day I’m urging you to love yourself, and even better, reach out to 5 friends who could use some love. Compliment their hair, their outfit, their ability to organize the shit out of their office, their soul. You never know when someone needs it the most. Let’s lift each other UP on Valentine’s day, rather than feeling badly about a current situation.
I am loved in more ways than I am criticized. I know it! But I just had to get on here and vent a bit. HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY loves!
–Roxanne
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Stefanie says
March 14, 2019 at 6:28 amI cannot see any problem with your weight.
You are very sexy and exactly what men like.
If anyone puts you down it is out of jealousy (women) or desire (men).
(Some men put down women whom they cannot have but would like to.)
Remember you are a woman, you look like one. If you were an asparagus you would look like an asparagus.
I have a 14-year old daughter and as a mother I never ever want her to feel unhappy about her body.
She has put on some weight recently and she looks lovely. Not so boyish any longer.
Stop crying, be your usual happy sexy self!
Jessica says
February 20, 2019 at 11:45 pmIndeed, it’s always easier for us to see the negative from a sea of positive things. That’s always been the challenge. However, understand that more people love us, and believe in us, and that their opinions matter most. We can’t please everybody.
Anyway, wow, 14 already? That’s amazing dear! Wishing you two all the best!
Jessica | notjessfashion.com
Chez-rama says
February 18, 2019 at 7:40 pmThat’s really sad that you received such a comment. It makes me sad that you felt so bad I wish I could hug you. It is so easy to say negative words or criticize a person without knowing the damage that it could cause and I am sad it happened to you beautiful girl inside out. Picture is a just an image we donot look always the best even celebrities with tons of people around helping they get tired or not “perfect to the public” but that does not make us less.
Plus, I have been told I look better in person than in image it is normal because some poses donot show our whole outfit as we want. geee I am pissed.
Sorry it is a long message. I am just annoyed that this happened to you
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ratnamurti says
February 18, 2019 at 7:14 pmCriticism is unnecessary, and unkind. I think that you lovely and wow I wish I looked as good as you. Keep going, you are great xxxxx
Jessica A Jannenga says
February 18, 2019 at 12:19 pmHi Roxanne
First, I love this fun outfit and those beautiful shoes with those fun socks. My hubby tells me that there could be tons of positives and one negative reply, comment etc, and I would focus on the one. I don’t know why people have to be negative and rude. I enjoyed reading about your love story and seeing the pictures of you and your hubby from years ago, that is special!
jess xx
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Chrissy says
February 18, 2019 at 8:35 amOk. I don’t know why my comments aren’t going through…trying again! And just in case this ends up being a duplicate…oops.
I think you’re beautiful and love your fun, edgy style including this fab outfit right here – all the way down to the socks! I’m loving the sweet insights into your relationship journey and appreciate the reminder to disregard the negative and love myself – right where I’m at!
Chrissy says
February 18, 2019 at 8:30 amThis post is all around sweet. I think your gorgeous and love your edgy, unique style, which applies to this outfit all the way down to those heart socks! Also, love the insight into your precious journey to marriage with that handsome guy! You both are blessed! 🙂 Have a great week and thank you for the reminder to love myself no matter where I’m at!
Shelbee on the Edge says
February 18, 2019 at 6:40 amOh, Roxanne, I am so sorry that one negative comment got you down. It can get the best of us though because we are all self conscious. And it’s one thing when I ask my husband’s opinion of an outfit, for example, and he answers honestly. It’s an entirely different thing when someone posts a criticism publicly and unsolicited. There is just no good purposeful reason for that. I think you look amazing and this Valentine’s outfit is darling! I am dying over the heart socks with the velvet sandals. If the ground would unfreeze and dry around here, I would start styling some socks with open toed shoes…but I can’t or I will just end up with wet toes! Thanks so much for sharing your beautiful love story as well as your vulnerabilities. It is empowering to see! Love you, girl!
Shelbee
http://www.shelbeeontheedge.com
susan says
February 15, 2019 at 1:05 pmYour love story is beautiful! Stay positive! You are fabulous!
Meghan Grace says
February 15, 2019 at 12:51 pmUgh. I’m sorry this happened to you! The old thing about if you can’t say anything nice…
Hugs! Meghan
Sincerely, Jennie says
February 15, 2019 at 12:23 pmHow cute are those socks and shoes? Adorable!
jodie filogomo says
February 15, 2019 at 9:05 amI’m like you with bad comments, Roxanne. I fret and they weigh heavily on my mind. Yet, there are negative people in the world unfortunately.
Take it from me that you’re more than fabulous!! And I should know!
XOXO
Jodie
http://www.jtouchofstyle.com
Maria | passion fruit, paws and peonies says
February 15, 2019 at 3:04 amI can be so hard to shake a comment off and I suspect the well meaning lady also feels terrible about it. It’s good to talk these things out because we all go through times when we are more sensitive – it makes us human. Sending hugs xxx